Perception is a tricky thing … it is defined as the way you think about or understand someone or something. A person’s perception IS their reality right or wrong. But here’s the two part problem with perception: 1. What if you’ve been taught wrong? 2. What if you think you have all of the information and you actually don’t? Even more … What if you are viewing something or someone through someone else’s WRONG lens. Here’s a simple fact you might consider: We cannot know another person’s heart, We CERTAINLY cannot understand why they respond to life and situations as they do. I’m going to share a story that was shared with me to illustrate:
Once upon a time, a 24 year old boy seeing out from the train’s window shouted “DAD! look, the trees are going behind!!” The Dad smiled and a young couple sitting nearby looked at his son’s childish behavior with pity, suddenly he again exclaimed …. “DAD!! Look, the clouds are running with us!!!!!” The young couple couldn’t resist and said to the older Man “Why don’t you take your son to a good doctor?” The man smiled and said .. I did, and we are just coming from the hospital – my son was blind from birth – he JUST GOT HIS EYES TODAY.”
We cannot know where that person who cut us off on the freeway is headed – maybe they have a sick child in the hospital dying and we are cussing them because they were rude. We cannot fathom that the person in line at the grocery store paying with a food stamp card is crippled with fear and shame & battling to continue putting one foot in front of the other because 6 months ago they were laid off from a job that paid them a six figure income that they worked 15 years to obtain and now they need assistance just to feed their family. We don’t know that the girl that shares her body with anyone who will have it does that because she was abused as a small child and taught that was all that she was good for & the only way to get attention or get her basic needs met. That the man who runs away from his family and supporting his children does it out of shear FEAR that he will fail them, ruin them or worse they will turn out like him – because he never had a father to show him how!
HOW are you perceiving others? Are you sure? Are there occasions when your very strong opinion is a trick to keep you from noticing something about yourself that you might need to address to walk free? Perception is a tricky thing.